School of Consent

The School of Consent is a training organization promoting the values and skills of the Wheel of Consent, as developed by Dr. Betty Martin. We offer courses, events, coaching and consulting for professionals, individuals & couples, and businesses.

Our work with professionals is focused primarily on hands-on practitioners (body workers, somatic educators, workshop leaders, sex coaches, surrogate partners, escorts, and other touch professionals), but also consultants, life coaches, therapists, physicians and classroom teachers.

The crux of the work is about receiving and giving – what they are and are not, how they really work, how to tell the difference and why it matters. Understanding this one basic dynamic changes everything.

Like a Pro is a five-day course on the Wheel of Consent® for practitioners.

It is offered to practitioners working with topics of consent, boundaries, relational intimacy, body sovereignty, trauma recovery, sexuality and communication, especially those with touch-based practices such as massage therapists, Tantra practitioners, sexological bodyworkers, sacred sexuality guides, surrogate partners, and other therapeutic touch providers. Professionals such as psychotherapists, physicians, counselors, educators and coaches also gain great insight and skills from this training.

This class is experience based, with a series of somatic experiences in which you experience each of the four Quadrants of the Wheel, which then allows you to apply the principles to your client sessions and offer it as a practice for your clients to take home. (Also expect it to affect your personal life.)

You will learn to coach your clients:

To notice, value, trust and communicate their needs and desires
To notice and be responsible for their boundaries
A simple touch practice/game to take home
To identify the tendency to go along with what is being done and how to reverse it
How to listen for 'the pull' instead of 'the push' when choosing to engage with another
To distinguish between requests, offers and invitations to create clear agreements
When touching: to gain confidence in their ability to touch and distinguish between touching for the other person's pleasure and touching for their own pleasure
When being touched: noticing they have a choice about how they are being touched and how to choose how they want to be touched

If you are a touch practitioner, you will also improve the quality of your touch, bringing both clarity and heart into your hands, and pass this on to your clients.